March is always slow in adoption…

As I mentioned on FB the other day, March is always a little slow in adoption.  As I pondered that thought a little more, I did a little research.  Unfortunately, I believe this year may be a little different than most.  I truly believe we are seeing less birthmoms each year, because abortion numbers are only increasing!  These numbers surely go hand in hand, friends.  The more women that abort their babies, means the number of adoptions are also going to decline.

That fact breaks my heart.  It is also a driving force in what led us to adopt 4 children, and the driving force in the fact that we are not yet finished building our family.  Our heart for adoption, came long before our first adopted child.  Our hearts for adoption came from our convictions for being pro-life. If we are going to take a stand and tell women, NOT TO ABORT, then we MUST be willing to adopt.  We must stand up and tell those women, WE WILL TAKE YOUR BABY.  We will take your baby, no matter the race, no matter what the baby has been exposed to, no matter what special needs this child may or may not have.  WE MUST BE WILLING TO ADOPT, IF WE ARE GOING TO TELL THESE WOMEN NOT TO ABORT!

There are great organizations out there fighting for these unborn babies, we need to get behind them.  We need to stand up and fight this fight with them.  We need to be willing to donate to them, stand with them, whatever it takes to bring the abortion numbers down.  These women facing the option of abortion need to be educated, they need to know that the women who abort regret that decision far worse than that of the women who place their children for adoption.  Abortion activists always present that the other way around, but the evidence suggests that they are wrong, that they are lying.

I am so thankful that the 3 women who birthed my children did not take the easy way out.  They took the hard road, the road less traveled.  Two of the three did not intend on making adoption plans, but ended up there anyway. I am thankful for their decision, for their selflessness.  I will never be able to repay these women for their gift to us.  Our lives are so much greater just having met these selfless women.

This post is just to bring awareness.  It is to educate the adoptive families that don’t know that abortion is our biggest competitor for these children.  I know my thoughts were a little crazy, forgive me…this is a subject that I don’t take lightly.  My two greatest passions are advocating for adoption and pro-life.

Lord, I want to lift up all the women who have found themselves in an unwanted or untimely pregnancy.  Lord, wrap your arms of peace around them.  Draw them close to you, Lord.  Place people in their lives, Lord, that would speak to them about adoption.  Steer them away from abortion,  Lord.  I pray that these women would see through the claims of organizations like Planned Parenthood, that they would see the lies they are being fed.  Lord, give them wisdom that only comes from you.  Give them peace to make a decision that would give this baby LIFE!  We praise you Lord, you are always faithful!

If you would like a great pro-life organization to donate to, please visit…The Radiance Foundation.  They are an amazing organization. Ryan Bomberger, the founder, was adopted after his BM was raped.  He knows personally the sacrifice it took for her to place him for adoption, rather than abort him.  Love their mission and their story!!  Your donations and support would be much appreciated.

Why we should love our birth mothers…

I know some of you will read this and you will think, geez, she sure does harp on that a lot.  Well, I believe a large part of the adoption journey is education and I believe it needs to happen on both sides of the equation.

I am so grateful for our birth mothers, I am thankful for their sacrifice, without which I would not be a mother to 4 out of 6 children.  Birth mothers sacrifice in many ways.  Ways that most of us adoptive parents may not consider.  These women selflessly carry a baby to term for US.  They carry their baby to term, rather than aborting, which by far is the EASIER choice.  Birth moms walk through their pregnancy just like any of your friends might, every store, doctors office, bank, etc people stop and ask, “when are you due, boy or girl, have you picked out a name, etc…”.  I can’t imagine how incredibly hard it is to answer those questions, all the while knowing she won’t be naming her baby or caring for her baby beyond the womb.  I can’t imagine.  Yet, so many adoptive families have the attitude, well, thank goodness for me, thank goodness I am here to adopt this poor girl’s baby.  Like you are a hero for adopting, like you think her baby is a mistake that you are nice enough to help her out with.  I wish that I hadn’t heard adoptive families act like this, but I have.

I don’t think the families that act like this even realize it.  This hero mentality isn’t out of meanness, but it still shouldn’t happen.  Whether you are adopting because of infertility or because of a calling in your life….YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO ACT ABOVE OR BETTER THAN YOUR BM. I will be the first to say that there are some birth mothers that do not make wise choices during their pregnancy, but you have to remember some of the women placing their children for adoption come from very different backgrounds than you and I.  Many of these women are a product of the environment they were raised in, many come from abusive backgrounds, alcohol/drug abuse, etc.  They are in a vicious cycle that is incredibly hard to break out of.  Those scenarios make me even more thankful for the BM’s that choose life for their babies.  These women don’t just decide, well, since I have done drugs, this baby isn’t worthy of living.  NO!  They chose LIFE.   I am so thankful for that decision.

One of the missions of FAC is that our clients would be the hands and feet of Jesus to their birth moms.  That you would witness, love on and show genuine interest and love toward your BM.  I never imagined having families that would just see their BM’s as a means to an end.  I never imagined having families that would talk ugly about their BM’s, or act like their BM is a bad person for the choices that she has made.   I would say one of the reasons most women abort is because they want to save face from their choices, these BM’s are facing their choices and the reactions of agencies, adoptive families, attorneys, etc head on.  They face their fears of being judged head on.  I can’t imagine how incredibly difficult and how vulnerable they must feel.

My prayer is and always has been that our adoptive families would a) LOVE JESUS  b) show that love to everyone they encounter through the adoption process.   Friends, I pray that you would attempt to put yourself in the shoes of a BM, think of the choices she has had to make, the life she has lived and that you would show her grace and mercy.  I pray that you would share the gospel to her if you have the pleasure of meeting her in person, that you would be a great witness for Christ through your entire adoption journey.

I beg you to remember that your greatest joy is her greatest loss.  Remember, that no matter what background this woman comes from, she loves her baby.  She has cared for this precious baby for 9 months and she loved that baby enough to give him/her life.  If you are only in the adoption process to end up with a baby in the end, and not to show Christ’s love along the way, you are the one acting selfishly.

I am thankful for all the stories I hear of our families meeting their BM’s and truly loving on them, not judging them or their choices and just showing  the love of Jesus.  Thank you to all of our clients that go above and beyond to love these women, and to share the gospel with them.

This is something Emory said, that I thought rang very true with this post:  ’Adoptive families are so excited about the gift they are receiving, but there must also be some consideration for the one giving the gift.’

My thoughts on Kony 2012

My thoughts on Invisible Children and the Kony 2012 campaign…

You can watch the video here…

I am sure by now, many of you have seen the video above.  It is the video created by Invisible Children, Inc. to make Joseph Kony famous.  I am sure many of you had no idea who Joseph Kony was 48 hours ago, or even what LRA stood for.  Am I right?  So, for that I am thankful that you have seen this video.  I am thankful that this video is bringing awareness to the invisible children of central Africa.

After this video went viral, many people started posting information about the organization behind the video.  The organization is a not for profit named, “Invisible Children”.  Apparently, from the reports I have read, they have been a little less than honest about money, and the Charitable Navigator gives them only 3 out of 4 stars.  Also, what I have learned as I have read more about this organization, and seen this organization through the eyes of some of the people who love, work, serve, etc in Uganda is that their tactics aren’t the greatest.

I have to be honest I have struggled a little with this whole thing since last night.  I am THRILLED that there is so much awareness being brought forth on this situation in Africa, I am thrilled that people want to get involved, but at the same time, I do believe it has to be done correctly.  The money that people donate…only 32% goes to Uganda.  Honestly, I don’t think that is the ridiculous part, don’t get me wrong, I wish less $$ was being spent on salaries, but comparatively speaking that isn’t a huge deal.  The HUGE part to me, is that the $$ going to Uganda is being given to the Ugandan military, which is known for raping and looting.  So they aren’t as bad as Kony, but they aren’t good either.  I find myself struggling with the fact that we want to use violence to END violence.  Naive as that might sound, I am thinking about all the “child soldier” body guards that will get killed as a result of the Ugandan army using force to capture Kony.  Now, you are thinking, well a few lives lost, but how many will be saved.  Yes, I agree.  I know that is true.  I also know that if President Barak Obama really wanted to HELP, he would send in Navy Seals like he did for Osama bin Laden and they would take Kony out.  If he really wanted to help, that is what he would do, he wouldn’t just send military advisors over.

Another point that I saw made, was that the way IC is handling this in Uganda is not taking in to consideration the children who have been victims of the LRA, whether that be children who lost their parents because of Kony, children who killed for Kony and then escaped, or whatever, there are children actually living this nightmare that we saw while sitting on our comfy sofa, those children need to be protected, not exposed and exploited.

I am all for making people more aware, and I believe that this video has brought about incredible awareness, and I am thankful for that, BUT I am not sure IC handles everything the way it needs to be or should be handled.

Again, after reading the articles about this organization and hearing first hand information from people who have seen how IC works in Uganda, I will not be giving them my money.  I will support other organizations in Africa that I know are trustworthy and using the money honestly.

I am praying that Kony is stopped.  I pray that he is captured, and these precious children who have been asked to maim, rape and murder are freed and are able to recover from the damage that Kony has caused.  My heart aches for these little boys….that’s what they are…little boys. My heart breaks for the little girls that have been made into sex slaves.  Oh, Lord, you broke my heart for Africa long ago.  I am thankful, Lord, that people are becoming aware of what is happening in central Africa.  I am thankful that people realize that KONY must be stopped.  Lord, my heart breaks for all the children that are going to be in the cross fires.  Lord, protect those children. Lord, my heart breaks for what these children have seen and been made to do.  Lord, may they be freed, but most of all,  I pray for their salvation.  Oh GOD, what is earthly freedom if they don’t have eternity with you?  Lord, I pray for the missionaries and people in the field in Africa, I pray that children continue to escape from the LRA, and that you would continue providing people who are able to minister and love on those sweet children.  Lord, most of all, I pray that these precious people see you!!  That YOU, JESUS, are made FAMOUS!

Love this.

Love this song.  Everytime I hear it, I plan to post a blog about it, but have yet to do it.  So here ya go!

 

Do you wonder why you have to,
feel the things that hurt you,
if there’s a God who loves you,
where is He now?

Maybe, there are things you can’t see
and all those things are happening
to bring a better ending
some day, some how, you’ll see, you’ll see

Chorus:
Would dare you, would you dare, to believe,
that you still have a reason to sing,
’cause the pain you’ve been feeling,
can’t compare to the joy that’s coming

so hold on, you got to wait for the light
press on, just fight the good fight
because the pain you’ve been feeling,
it’s just the dark before the morning

My friend, you know how this all ends
and you know where you’re going,
you just don’t know how you get there
so just say a prayer.
and hold on, cause there’s good who love God,
life is not a snapshot, it might take a little time,
but you’ll see the bigger picture

Would dare you, would you dare, to believe,
that you still have a reason to sing,
’cause the pain you’ve been feeling,
can’t compare to the joy that’s coming

so hold on, you got to wait for the light
press on, just fight the good fight
because the pain you’ve been feeling,
it’s just the dark before the morning
yeah, yeah,
before the morning,
yeah, yeah

Once you feel the way of glory,
all your pain will fade to memory
once you feel the way of glory,
all your pain will fade to memory
memory, memory, yeah

Would dare you, would you dare, to believe,
that you still have a reason to sing,
’cause the pain you’ve been feeling,
can’t compare to the joy that’s coming

Would dare you, would you dare, to believe,
that you still have a reason to sing,
’cause the pain you’ve been feeling,
can’t compare to the joy that’s coming

com’n, you got to wait for the light
press on, just fight the good fight
because the pain you’ve been feeling,
it’s just the hurt before the healing
the pain you’ve been feeling,
just the dark before the morning
before the morning, yeah, yeah
before the morning

 

I know many of you reading this are walking through the journey that is adoption right now.  Many of you are questioning the Lord’s plan, because things haven’t been as simple as you hoped and planned for.  Well, I pray that you will hold on, because the joy is coming.  All the pain and heartache of adoption is so worth it, if you can only make it through the process.  Praying for each of you today!  Praying you can hold out for the incredible joy that comes in the morning.

 

Break my heart for what breaks yours, Lord.

I know most of us have seen the movie “The Blind Side”.  If you haven’t, STOP right now and RENT IT!!!  Better yet, BUY IT!!  I love this movie. I love it for many reasons, but I wanted to share a few reasons why I love it so much!

I watched this wonderful movie again this weekend, and cried my eyes out throughout the entire movie.  I prayed as I watched it, “Lord, break my heart for what breaks yours.  Open my eyes to the things that I am missing. Let me see the world as you see it.”  That is a huge request.  I was afraid as I prayed, afraid that He would actually open my eyes, and that I would not be able to handle all the things that I would see.  What have we been missing?  We go through life, thinking of ourselves and our little families, we hardly ever think outside of our little bubble.  At least for us, I think Emory and I are so overwhelmed with our own life, that sometimes we forget to open our eyes, and to have our hearts broken for what breaks our God’s heart.

As I watched the Blind Side, I praised the Lord for people like Leanne Touhey.  This woman’s eyes were opened to what most of us are missing.  How many people would actually stop on the side of the road, at night, for another person?  Not many.  How many of us would take that person into our home and let them stay, indefinitely?  Not many.  Oh, Lord, THANK YOU, for opening Leanne Touhey’s eyes, may her story encourage us to be open to YOUR plan for our lives, Lord.

One of the first things that broke my heart in this movie was when this family buys Big Mike a bed.  He says, “I’ve never had one.”  Broke my heart, in fact, I am crying as I type this.  I have heard those words before.  When we adopted our oldest daughter, we gave her a beautiful new room, with a BEAUTIFUL Queen size bed.  She looked at it, and asked, ‘who is this for?”.  She then informed us that she and her sisters all shared a twin mattress on the floor in the same room as their BM, and several other people from what we understand.  Our daughter was almost 4 years old, and she had NEVER had a bed.  She had never had her own things.  That breaks my heart.  How could she not have a bed?  What child deserves conditions any less than we provide for our biological children.  What child deserves to sleep on the floor?  Or street? No child deserves that.  I believe the Lord’s heart is broken for these children.  Lord, break my heart for what breaks yours.

Another thing I saw as I watched this movie, was a huge boy with an even bigger heart.  A boy who scored 98% in protective instincts.  Where do you think those come from?  Those instincts come from the life he was raised in.  I see those same instincts in my oldest daughter and my second oldest son.  Both came to us at 3 years old.  Both had such protective instincts toward their birth families.  It’s like the roles had been reversed, and my children were the adults and their BM’s the children.  They both felt the need to protect them, and constantly worried about what would happen to their birth families if we adopted them.  My 2 children were robbed of their childhood, they were robbed of an imagination, and so much more.  When children have to act as the adult, it is hard to make them go back to being  a child.  I believe the Lord’s heart is broken for children that are in these circumstances.  Lord, break my heart for what breaks yours.

Another thing I saw, was a culture around Leanne Touhey that didn’t understand her choices.  I am not sure how she handled these situations in real life, but if it was anywhere close to how she was portrayed handling it in the movie, then she is my hero.  For instance, at lunch with her “friends”, she was mocked for taking in this child. She was mocked for even talking about becoming his legal guardian.  Her friends didn’t get it.  For many adoptive parents, that is a familiar feeling.  I know for Emory and I, we have been there.  We have lost many friends in the course of the building of our family. We have been ridiculed about adopting so many, ridiculed for adopting trans-racially, ridiculed for adopting special needs, and now ridiculed for even thinking about doing it again.  Lord, I believe you have put us in those situations to educate others about the orphan crisis, an opportunity to share your heart for the orphans…I’m embarrassed to say we probably haven’t always handled it well.  Lord, break my heart for these people, give me the words and the wisdom to know what to say to them, how to educate them, etc.  Lord, break my heart for what breaks yours.

Overall, this movie reminded me to pray daily that the Lord would constantly break my heart for what breaks His.  That He would mold me to be more like Him.  That He would open my eyes to the things that I am missing.  I pray that each of you reading this, would be open to the Lord’s plan for your life.  It may not look exactly like you planned, I am sure Leanne Touhey never imagined her family being the basis of a movie, but I am sure she can’t imagine her life looking any differently now.  I pray that as you all go through the adoption process that you would be open to what the Lord has for you, that you would not miss out on HIS will, because your eyes aren’t open.  I pray that you would truly seek HIS face and HIS will for your adoption.

If you read all the way to here….thanks for reading my rambling!  Have a blessed day!

Happy 2012!

I am so excited that tomorrow begins our 2012 client list.  I am thrilled to get to start with new clients, and only bringing one over from 2011!  I believe that the Lord has great plans for Faithful Adoption Consultants and our clients.  I believe that He has great plans for the agencies we work with, and each BM that our families connect with!  I am grateful that the Lord allowed me to play a small role in each of our client’s lives and in their adoption journeys.  I am thankful that He allows me to sit shotgun as He builds these families through adoption!!

Lord, thank you for allowing me the blessing of watching you work in and through adoptive parents.  Thank you for enriching our lives with the incredible friendship of each of our clients, thank you for the incredible agencies that you have allowed us to work with!  Thank you, Lord, for the many blessings you have bestowed upon Faithful Adoption Consultants…we are so thankful! I pray that 2012 is bigger and better than 2011, and I know 2011 was a GREAT year.  I pray that you, Lord, would use our clients to glorify your name, that you would work through our families to reach BM’s all over the US!  Thank you, Lord, for each and every blessing!

AMEN!

Transracial Adoptions…

Thanks, Tammy for reading the blog today, and reminding me about how great this article is.  I posted this back in 2009, and thought this interview was worth reposting!!

 

Interview on Transracial Adoption and the Gospel

Occasionally someone sends me an e-mail asking if I know of any resources that address transracial or transethnic adoption from a biblical perspective. Unfortunately, most of these e-mails come from people who are facing opposition to transethnic adoption from within the evangelical community. They most often want to know how the gospel addresses this important issue. So I thought I would post an interview I did with Thabiti Anyabwile last September. In it he addresses the issue of race and the gospel, particularly as it relates to the practice of transethnic adoption.

Thabiti is the pastor of First Baptist Church of Grand Cayman and most recently the author of the following books: What Is a Healthy Church Member?, The Decline of African American Theology: From Biblical Faith to Cultural Captivity, and The Faithful Preacher: Recapturing the Vision of Three Pioneering African-American Pastors. He served previously as an elder/assistant pastor at Capitol Hill Baptist Church (Washington, DC) and as an elder at Church on the Rock (Raleigh, NC). He also blogs at Pure Church.

1. Tell us a little about First Baptist Church of Grand Cayman.

This year FBC is celebrating its 30th anniversary. The church began in 1977 with 21 people from one of the ‘sister islands’ (Cayman Brac) meeting in a local living room. Today, there are people from about 25 nations who call FBC their spiritual home. It’s easily the most ethnically diverse church I’ve ever served. The people here love the Lord, His gospel, and His people. It’s a great joy to serve them.

2. As a pastor, what’s your primary burden for your people?

To see us all grow in holiness, to be shaped more and more in the image of Christ and therefore fit for heaven. We live on what most people consider an “island paradise.” Not surprisingly, then, the levels of worldly hedonism and materialism are quite high. But that’s really a tremendous gospel opportunity if the Lord grows us in Christ-likeness, disdain for this world, and commitment to living and sharing the gospel. If we can have more of heaven in us, even before we’re in heaven, the contrast between life in the kingdom and life in the world will be stark. I long to see us yearn for Christ and His kingdom.

3. You recently wrote an excellent and thought-provoking article entitled “Many Ethnicities, One Race.“ Why did you write it?

It was a privilege to be asked to contribute to the 9Marks eJournal issue on ethnicity and the church. Generally, I don’t like talking or writing a great deal about ethnicity and race; there are too many ways in which those conversations are unhelpful and unedifying. Nevertheless, the Lord has given us sufficient guidance for these issues in His word and I’m convinced we’ve not mined the Scripture enough. And that’s really problematic given how glaring a problem the racial history of the U.S. has been—the church not excepted. So, at the invitation of the brothers at 9Marks I tried to offer what I hope is a useful, biblical framework for thinking through these issues.

4. Some people, for any number of reasons, are uncomfortable with the idea of transracial adoption. Other people, because of their views on race, are outright opposed to the idea of transracial adoption; they believe that adoption across ethnic lines should not be practiced. How might the Bible speak to these concerns?

Well, I think it depends on the nature of the discomfort or opposition. If the discomfort or opposition is grounded in some assumption that “races” are unequal or that “races” should remain segregated in family and social relationships, I think the Bible rebukes and corrects that kind of thinking in several ways. First, it’s clear that there is only one “race” of man, all descended from our original parents Adam and Eve (Gen. 2; Acts 17:26). There is no biblical basis for discomfort or opposition based on racial attitudes. Second, the alienation that sometimes stirs opposition to transracial adoption is really a spiritual problem. It’s a product of the Fall of man into sin. The cure for that problem is saving faith in Jesus Christ, wherein man is first reconciled to God and then reconciled to other men. So, for Christians in particular, those who are adopted into the family of God through faith in Christ, opposition to transracial adoption is tantamount to denying the work of Christ on the cross.

But there may also be discomfort or opposition not based on racial attitudes but some prudential concerns. Some may wonder if they are sufficiently equipped to parent across culture and ethnicity. Others may worry about the tension or conflict they may experience. There we have to remember that we are not called to love only in the convenient places and situations. We’re called to a radical love, one that mirrors the love of God for broken sinners. And the end of such love is unspeakable joy. For the joy set before Him, Jesus Christ endured the inconvenient and uncomfortable agony of the cross to redeem a people who were hostile toward Him. Adoption across ethnic lines may be one of the best pictures of that radical Christ-like love we have available to us today. So, “prudential” concerns that awaken discomfort aren’t finally sufficient reason to refuse or oppose such adoptions.

5. More and more couples are considering adopting transracially. How would you counsel a couple that desires to adopt a child from another race (i.e. ethnicity)? How would you seek to educate them theologically? How should the gospel help shape their view of transracial adoption?

The first thing I would want to do is simply commend and encourage them. I’d want to commend this act of selflessness and love. And I’d want to encourage them to remember that God’s grace is sufficient for their every need. That’s true of parenting in general, and it’s true of the specific case of transracial adoption and parenting. So, first, be encouraged.

Second, I’d want to encourage them to jettison the idea of “race” as it has historically been defined. Drop it like the bad habit it is. Learn to read the Scripture for its accent on our common humanity. Hayes’ Biblical Theology of Race is very valuable in this regard. Think of the children, indeed all people, as essentially “same” rather than “other.”

But third, having acknowledged our common humanity, think and teach your children to think in terms of “the nations.” In other words, there’s a tremendous opportunity in multi-ethnic families to cultivate a deeper concern for missions and getting the gospel to all nations. Try to prevent conversations and cross-cultural education from terminating on man or your family; try to think of those conversations as opportunities for thinking great thoughts about God who wants to be known among all people. The Lord has purposed that His glory will be shown in the bowing of the nations to His name. Our reflection on ethnicity and culture is incomplete if it doesn’t have that goal in mind.

6. Many who will read this interview have already adopted transracially. They are often concerned that their transracially adopted children will struggle with a sense of identity since they do not have same-race parents or do not live in an ethnically diverse area. Would you address their concern?

Again, I’d want to remind them that the Lord’s grace is sufficient for their parenting and this concern. Lean into that grace; commit this issue to the Lord in prayer. He’ll direct your steps and give you wisdom in this area.

Second, it’s important to think of parenting as essentially an exercise in identity formation (spiritually first, and ethnically in light of those spiritual realities). So, give considerable time to helping your child think of her or himself as one made in the image of God. The dignity of their lives is derived primarily from this aspect of their identity. Whatever struggles they encounter in terms of social and ethnic identity, they should resolve them in light of this fundamental truth. Also, parents want to help their children ground their identity in Christ if the child is/becomes a Christian. They are being renewed in the knowledge of God, righteousness and holiness through their union with Christ. This is the most profound aspect of who they are and understanding this is critical for putting identity conflicts in their proper perspective. Having laid that theological basis then it’s time to think critically about ethnic culture, experiences, and ideas.

The mistake many will make—partly out of an overdeveloped sense of guilt, and partly out of a desire to help their children—is to rush to ethnic and cultural considerations. Based on my own experience running rites of passage programs aimed at fostering cultural identity and values, most children are really ill-equipped for this kind of exploration because they haven’t settled larger, more fundamental questions about existence, faith, and purpose. Parents want to lay that foundation first. Children will be healthier in the long run even if the struggle feels acute at some points. But for help with ethnic identity issues, don’t be afraid to enlist the help of others. Build cross-cultural friendships. Include cross-cultural experiences in the family’s entertainment options (books, movies, concerts, etc.). This may take some investment, but it’s not only good for the child but the parents as well.

(Retrieved from http://www.togetherforadoption.org/?p=247)

National Adoption Awareness Month

Did you know that November is National Adoption Awareness Month?  Did you know that there are 163 million orphans in the world?  Did you know that we are called to care for the orphans and the widows in their affliction?

We are called to care for the orphans, don’t believe me, check out James 1:27, ”Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the Father, is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.”

See, told you!!  :0)

 

I believe caring for the orphans means more than just bringing a child into your home.  I believe that if you are not in a position to adopt right now, that maybe the Lord is telling you to financially support someone who is.  Every $1 helps in adoption.  There are many grants out there that will match donated funds dollar for dollar for adoptive families, what a blessing every small donation is.

 

Faithful Adoption Consultants has started a grant for our clients through LifeSong for Orphans.  We would love for you to make a tax deductible donation to LifeSong for FAC families.  If you would like information on how to do that, please email me at courtney@faithfuladoptionconsultants.com.  We have many families waiting to bring home their sweet babies, but FINANCES are standing in the way.  What a blessing to help a family with this financial barrier.

 

Courtney

A little about myself…

But first I have to say how very excited I am that this is where the Lord has led me!  I am thrilled at the opportunity to be able to help families grow through adoption!  I truly feel like this is my “thing”, my “calling” in life, to bring awareness to and educate people about adoption!

My husband, Shawn, and I had 3 biological children, but had always desired to adopt, and after reading James 1:27, we knew it was something we had to do.  How better to take care of an orphan than to bring them into your family?  We anticipated a fairly quick journey to our child.  We were somewhat open; we knew not to expect a child with a perfect background, we were willing to consider various health issues, and we were open to race.  The only thing we were specific about was gender, and we even presented on a few gender unknowns.    However the Lord had different plans for us, more specifically me.  I tend to be a very organized person, a planner, and the Lord used this to teach me that things don’t always happen according to our time.  It took 10 months after our home study was done and after we had signed on with FAC to have our baby in our arms.  In that time our profile was shown to countless birth moms, and every time the answer was the same, it’s just not the right baby for you.  We also had 2 failed situations.  In one we had been chosen by the birth mom, talked to her several times, got a call that our birth mom was in labor, and was making plans to go to the hospital, when the baby was still born.  That was a difficult time, I felt the loss, and grieved for our birth mom.  The second was a situation where we were at the hospital with a baby, and had to choose to walk away.  (Absolutely the hardest thing I have EVER had to do!!!)  Joshua 1:9 says, “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.”  God didn’t say the road to adoption would be easy, he just commanded us to do it.

I now see why the Lord didn’t give us an easy road to adoption.  Along the way I was discouraged, but God used my experience to grow my passion for adoption and my desire to help orphans.  I tend to be more of an introvert, but this is one thing I can’t help but be vocal about, and am grateful to now have a place to put my energy and conviction for adoption to use!  I look forward to getting to know the FAC community better, and helping new families grow through adoption.

Jessica

 

 

Just a note….

One of the things I love about adoption is the emotional bond that is created between each of my clients and myself through the adoption journey. It is nearly impossible for me not to become dear friends with each of my clients.  This journey is too emotional.  I love that some of my dearest friends are past or even present clients of FAC.  What a blessing.

I love that I have the luxury of living close by a few of my past clients, that I am now blessed to call friend.  This morning, I was blessed by one of those precious friends.  She brought over her little one and some pumpkin muffins, and we were able to talk about the highs and lows of adoption, and how adoption has greatly changed us from the inside out.

Talking to this friend, made me realize how much adoption has changed my life.  It has become Emory and I’s main passion, to be a light in the adoption world and to watch the Lord grow families through adoption. It is amazing, and it is impossible for it not to change you.  Adoption is life-changing…not only for the orphans that we are adopting, but for us.  I think it may be more life-changing for us than them, and I know 2 of my 4 were adopted when they were older, and I KNOW IT WAS LIFE-CHANGING.  But still, I believe it was more life changing for us than for them.  How are lives have been enriched by them, what they have taught us, what having a family of 8 has taught us is AMAZING!!

Thank you all for allowing us to walk alongside you in this journey!  Thank you for allowing me to call you FRIEND!!  Thank you for teaching me so much about God’s sovereignty through your adoption journeys!!  The Lord has taught me more these past 4 years about love, patience, compassion, understanding, humility, etc than ever before!  Thank you!  I am blessed to work with each of you, and consider it a true blessing!!

 

Courtney

 

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