God’s plan…not our plan… and it is SO much better than anything we could have ever dreamed on our own!
“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go” (Joshua 1:9)
We talked about the possibility of adoption even before we were married. We were in our mid-thirties when we were married and weren’t sure how many biological children we would be able to have, and we also knew that God’s heart is so moved towards orphans and adoption. After a period of unexplained infertility, we had our biological son, Lukas, who was born 4 1/2 months before Penny turned 40, and was a miracle and blessing from the Lord! After two miscarriages (one before the birth of our first son and one after), we decided to pursue adoption to increase our family and to fulfill what we felt the Lord leading us to do. There was a period of time during which every time we went to church, heard someone speak, read a blog, etc., it was about adoption and God used this time to draw our hearts towards His call on our family!
We are so very thankful that we were led to Faithful Adoption Consultants from the very beginning (through 2 mutual sets of friends who lived in 2 different cities and both adopted through FAC)! We honestly do not know how we could have made it through all of the initial paperwork and learning curve without Courtney and her incredible team! They are truly gifted and called by the Lord to do what they do in leading families through the adoption process!
Our own process started in September, 2012 after completing all of our paperwork and home study and being “active” with FAC. Our profile was presented on at least 17 different birth situations, and our precious son, Wyatt, was born a short 2 1/2 months later in November 2012.
The Lord took us on a journey during these 2 1/2 months from, “Okay, God, please send us a child with x,y,z characteristics and good health, etc., etc.”…to an attitude of, “Whatever Your will is, Lord…that is what we want for our child and our family because you know best.” We saw such a great need for domestic adoption during this time. It was an amazing journey filled with miracles and one where we could see the hand of God at work more clearly than ever in our family. About halfway through our journey the Lord gave us this verse to cling to: “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go” (Joshua 1:9). He knew exactly what we needed and guided us each step of the way.
We never imagined that we would adopt a “medical special needs” baby, but that is exactly what happened as our son was born with a birth defect called gastroschisis (his intestines were on the outside of his little body at birth). We spent almost 7 weeks in the state were he was born (a 16 hour drive from our home), as he was in the NICU and underwent surgery during that time. I can honestly say that, as difficult as it was to be away from home for that long, over the Christmas holidays, and with a 4 year old in tow… we would do it all over again without hesitation for our son. When we think of all that God has done for each of us as His children, 7 weeks is truly a vapor when we think of the length of Wyatt’s precious life as well as our own lives!
We are so grateful to the Lord for using FAC to bring us our precious son, and we are thankful that we listened and allowed Him to lead, even when it seemed scary and there were so many unknowns. Wyatt is a happy and healthy almost 2-year-old today, who loves his big brother and is thriving beautifully in our family. Our family would not be complete without him! We keep in contact with his precious birth mother on a regular basis (something else we never thought we would do!) and are so grateful that she chose life for our son. It is so true that God’s heart is moved by adoption. Once you go through the process for yourself, you will see God move in mighty ways and nothing will stop Him from bringing your family together!